Go ahead, try to keep this straight in your head -
Is and Should
exists, should is a judgment often made by you, me and many others,
often difficult to agree on and usually argued about. Is is a situation,
should is a solution, a goal. Is is reality, should should be realistic,
but based on an ideal, which is usually the start of an argument.
Most of us have an opinion about what should should be, but we usually
surrender to the reality of the obstacles presented by
are times when is becomes intolerable and a general consensus on should
forms which becomes influential in the new shape of is. Even then,
the satisfaction with the new is is usually more of the nature of
tolerance than any real satisfaction or happiness. This is because
of the disagreement that usually accompanies discussion of the ultimate
shoulds and shouldnts.
are as many ways to look at is and should as there are people walking
the earth, maybe more. Some would say that is just is, should is unreachable
and we should just deal with is as it is. Some say that is should
be should and that we should all work toward the should that they
see. Some say we should look at all the shoulds and reach a compromise
should that we will make is, but this is will be just another is to
deal with for the people who disagree with the should that was negotiated
into the new is. It looks like should is just another part of is that
makes is more difficult to deal with, doesnt it!?
both is and should are mixed bags. There always seems to be some part
of is that we either forget or dont notice when we are planning
our shoulds. Is it the curse of the limits of the human mind or is
it the curse of the arrogance of thinking that we know what is best
for the world?
at some of the historical is and shoulds, some of the most radical.
How about Jesus?
Jesus radical!? Somebody thought so, they did after all, try to kill
him. What was the big deal about Jesus? Didnt he just tell us
to love each other in a neighborly way and wouldnt life be much
better for us if we did this? Most of us would agree with this and
then use the excuse of the way it is or the dog
eat dog world out there for not following through. Whose fault
is that? There is more to Jesus, though. He also, it is written, taught
and demonstrated a power above the power man has claimed to govern
himself. This is a threat to man kinds concept of being
lord of the earth, something near and dear to the insecure heart,
a pet idea man has about his intellect and abilities despite the evidence
to the contrary, everyday evidence such as weather, the actions of
other people, Murphys law and the consequences and results of
so many of our solutions. This concept of mans sovereignty
is so strong in circles of power that a phenomenon like Jesus is considered
a threat worthy of termination with extreme prejudice.
story does not, however end there. Look what happened once Jesus was
physically out of the picture for a few years. That same family of
power brokers, recognizing the power of the things Jesus said and
did, adopted the institutions, established by men in Jesus name,
as their own. They proclaimed their knowledge of his teachings and
took it upon themselves to interpret this knowledge for
the benefit of us common people and suddenly, these institutions
were sanctioning things like war and and the exclusion of selected
groups from the salvation which Jesus offered to everyone. Hmmm...
the way it is!?
again, from one radical extreme to another, a more recent friend,
Adolph Hitler. This guy took the idea of man being lord of the earth
a little farther than the rest of the world would let him. Most of
us are aware of his idea of a blonde haired, blue eyed, Aryan master
race and how it ended up (we think, anyway). The funny thing is that
Hitler himself was non blonde, non blue eyed, non Aryan and he only
had one... well thats nasty and nitpicking, but the contradictions
dont stop there. On the one hand, he believed in the absolute
power of himself and Germany, but on the other hand he was so insecure
about this power that he felt it necessary to eliminate whole races
of people to maintain it. Hitler said that Germany should rule the
world and he set about to make it is. He was supported by enough influential
people that he went a long way toward succeeding. The is of the rest
of the world felt pretty strongly against this, though, and, after
much fighting destruction and death, the is of the rest of the world
became the is of Germany. It was not, however, the is that existed
before the war. Hmmm ... is and should...
are two extreme examples, from one end to the other, but for both,
back to the middle, the way it is, and in both cases an
is that was changed, judged by many to be better. Is constantly
changes and the more things change, the more they stay the same. The
same is the next is.
most important ises and shoulds are the local ones, yours, mine
and our neighbors. The PTA shoulds and ises, the county election
shoulds and ises, your churchs, your familys shoulds and
ises, the ones that never make the news or the papers are the shoulds
and ises that make the world go round, that hold together or rip apart
families, communities, societies and cultures. These little
ises and shoulds determine the direction of the big shoulds
and ises. They are the molecular shoulds and ises that make up the
bigger element or compound mixture of the shoulds and ises that make
the news. Your childs school should be acceptable to you. Your
local government should be acceptable to you. You should be satisfied
with your efforts. You should do something about it if you is
unhappy with any of these. These shoulds and ises ARE within your
is the result of endless shoulds being tried and modified
to is. Should is actually a part of is because shoulds exist in the
minds of everyone and every once in a while someone decides to try
to make should into is. If this person ends up being widely influential,
then their should begins to affect the is of many of us.
Is and should are decisions that we all make. You may decide to put
up with is or you may decide to try a should. We each do this every
day whether we realize or think about it or not. On the job, at home,
at the club, at church we all face is and should questions and situations
everyday. Whether you are passive, aggressive, creative or mundane
you will face them today and tomorrow. You
will decide some on auto pilot or cruise control, you will think
about others and your decision on some will be to ignore or not decide.We
is stuck with it and we should be stuck with
it, they are after all our lives. Is and should, hmmm ... Good Luck!?
"Thinkin To Do"
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