Why Can't We All Just Get Along?
is one person who got an extra fifteen minutes of fame for saying
this and then got just as publicly coal raked as a hypocrite and a
drug addict. The truth is that most of us hypocrites, drug addicts,
alcoholics, churchgoing citizens, upstanding moral guardians, cigarette
smokers, couch potatoes and even those of us who mind our own business
have asked this question at one time or another. The usual answer
that we give ourselves is along the lines of a shoulder shrug accompanied
by some form of "that's the way it is" cop out.
not that we can't get along with each other, it's that we just don't.
It is a decision made by each individual and it is also a matter of
degree. We do get along to a certain point. If we did not, society
would already be forgotten history. The question in the title really
refers to the intentions and attitude that our "getting along
" is based on.
question raises other questions. Is our present form of getting along
based on good will or reluctantly acknowledging
that we need each other to prosper or at least, survive? Are we "nice"
to each other just to keep each other on reserve to be used to advantage
later or are we nice because we really want things to work out well?
Do we follow the rules because we are afraid of punishment or do we
follow the rules because we understand that they should be designed
to make life better for everyone? Do we choose leaders based on their
integrity and attitude or based on what we get out of them? Is it
really a dog eat dog world or is that just what we accept?
Why do we let things go on this way?
answers are very common and in all of us. Basic insecurity, a lack
of faith in our own effectiveness is the most general form of an answer.
This insecurity takes many forms ranging from a vague general fear
of life, to taking refuge in selfishness,
to power lust or the attempt to control others in order to protect
ourselves, to defensive hostility or "life is a war as
a way of life, to the "get what you can because everyone else
is" religion and many other not so healthy attitudes. The bottom
line is that we don't trust ourselves enough to trust any one else
or even allow ourselves to try to be trustworthy and that we often
try to hide from this fact.
looks bleak don't it. But reread the question one more time. Think
about it. Just the fact of its existence shows that there is faith
in its possibilities. It would take a lot of work and sacrifice to
make it real, but the desire and the idea exist. Most people would
even agree that it would be nice, but...
are, of course, people who decide to get along based on good will.
They are an important part of the glue that holds society together.
They do things based on their honest intention that life be good for
everyone. They are not as rare as this little essay might make it
sound, but they are not that common either. Many
people who think of themselves as members of this group are lying
to themselves and many of the people
who ARE members of this group do not realize how important they
are, There are some well known members of this group, but the ones
who live without recognition are the ones who have an effect that
society could not exist without.
example of these people tempers the attitudes and actions of the worst
offenders in the group that surrenders to insecurity. They make it
easier for people to choose good will, whether it be through admiration
or shame. We need these people.
CAN get along with each other. The price is enduring those who
refuse and getting along anyway. It ain't easy, and it never will
be, but after a while, the benefits will become obvious. Choose.
By Al Uvus