has at least six definitions in any dictionary, three verbs and three
nouns. All have to do with the idea of something or some body manging
people, events or objects to behave in a predetermined way. This concept
is used in every human endeavor from government and business to science
and religion. The idea of control is often tied to the idea of power.
Power is often defined as the ability to control.
there is absolute control on one end of the degree scale and complete
lack of influence on the other extreme. Absolute control implies great
strength. Wether that strength is physical, mental, related to personality
or a combination depends on the situation. Lack of control implies
weakness in the same categories. Upon close inspection both extremes
are illusions relative to the degree of cooperation from others that
control is an illusion because cooperation is required and because
it is impossible to be aware of all the influences on a given situation.
Absolute lack of control is also an illusion because everyone is capable
and to a certain extent obligated to make up their own mind. When
it comes to human relationships, control is always given or not given
from one person to another prson or group in the form of either acquiescence/cooperation
is necessary for control, wether dealing with humans, animals or inanimate
objects such as machines. Cooperation can be obtained through coercion
or agreement, love/respect or fear/intimidation. People will often
cooperate with the understanding of some future benefit such as money.
Natural forces must be cooperated with, they can be manipulated, but
this manipulation requires working with (cooperating with) the laws
of nature. The consequences of these manipulations can be beneficial
and useful or unexpected and dangerous, depending on the understanding
of the laws of nature by the person(s) doing the manipulations.
ideal situation is cooperation based on mutual benefit. In this situation,
all parties are required to control themselves by acting according
to agreement, with their motivation being whatever benefit(s) have
been agreed upon or exchanged. This situation requires that people
take responsibility for their own actions, responsibilites and/or
promises. everyone controls themselves.
the majority of people, for whatever reason(s) tend to give up at
least some of their natural born control to bosses, governments, religions
and other individuals and groups to which are attributed the ability
to know what is best. This can be argued to be an exercise
of self control, but only if there is an awareness of what has been
given up. Many people give it up because they have not examined their
the only true control that any person ever has is control over their
own thoughts and actions. Even this kind of control is difficult to
manage due to the presence of fears and other subconscious motivations
that exist in all of us. Self control requires awareness of all the
things that motivate the person and all the things that influence
their perception of the things that they witness and cause. Complete
self control is virtually impossible for most humans, but if it were
possible, it would require the ability to see only what is there and
avoid reading unnecessary and incorrect meanings into the things that
they see, say and do. It would require that the person recognize the
influences of their emotions and the reasons for their desires and
ambitions. It would require that the person know what they see, need,
want and why. It would require that people accept the responsibility
of self control and the result would be a better world.
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